Today I was out of town visiting my sister who lived in an apartment complex on the lake. Earlier that evening, after a great time with my young son and my 3 yr old nephew, we walked up the stairs I enjoyed the peace and quiet as I watched the [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: We all have that special someone that we never can forget. Sometimes we even have that special someone that is our deepest secret. It is wrong, we won’t deny it. We never condone infidelity, but we know the reality is we’re human. We know a love affair can happen any time. In [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Magic Mike was the craze a few months ago. I didn’t see what all the hype was. We saw it on a girls night out too. And by the end, all my girlfriends and I wanted the male strippers to just put their clothes back on. This reader [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Jealousy as I’ve seen it, is always destructive. I’ve seen countless fights, arguments, and ridiculous behavior because of the green eyed monster. It can be explosive and cause a lot of anger. It’s not called the green eyed monster for nothing. I always liked how one of my friends put it once, [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Society has given convenient labels for everything under the sun. When it comes to sexuality, especially women, labels fly hard and fast. We all know the double standard in which sexually active women are labeled negatively as a whore or slut. Sadly, men who have the same highly [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Sometimes the past can burn us so bad we fail to want to take a chance and sacrifice independence to be with someone new. But, if we’re blessed enough, we’re lucky enough to meet someone who may be worth it. If we don’t take that chance, we may lose out [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Life is never perfect and roles like single mothers or father exist. It’s not perfect, but we learn to live those roles out well. Well meaning loved ones can pressure, asking why don’t you get married or that you should find a father for your child. People can [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: We all make mistakes in life. When we look back on our lives, we can ask ourselves why we did what we did or even who that person was. We are of the mindset to never point fingers, who are we to judge, especially when the topic of [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Our next reader is spot on with our views here at STD on sexuality. Gay, straight or bisexual, you’re human and we accept you. To each their own and the lifestyle they choose. Your sexuality doesn’t determine how you should be treated. If I’m going to be rude, I’ll be [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: We are definitely big supporters of family. Family is the place where we all can call home and be ourselves. But what we are NOT supporters of are unhealthy relationships with unhealthy coping skills. Everyone should have a healthy environment where trust and respect are present and seen more [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Tis love is grand, but tis love is complicated when the baby daddy is gone. And your boyfriend turns out as a fail as a daddy daycare. Then what do you do? He’s perfect for you, but flawed for your child. Is romance over or is there hope? [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: No one thinks of dying or death when they think of love. But for some, it’s a reality. This reader grew up with an appreciation of the military as her father served while she was a child. But, read on as she contemplates death and dying as she [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: There are no perfect people in dating. And anyone who tries to convince you they are perfect is flawed in their thinking. And we’re of the belief that you can never judge someone, especially when it comes to their past. And don’t act innocent when you do have [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: It’s true you should never let the past affect your future. But somewhere along the lines, we pick up bad behavior and even start playing those games we learn from others. True love has no place for games and flakers. So if you’re going to take a chance [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: In our ordinary lives, sometimes we meet extraordinary couples. A pair of rock stars who are all around the type of people who are movers and shakers. They go above the status quo and build not just a wonderful relationship, but a strong community behind them. Relationships like [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Sooner or later, all our relationships come to an end. There comes the inevitable rebound for some, alone time, or eventually, new, better relationships. It can happen fast, it may be a while, but if the opportunity comes up, you gotta make it count. And for this reader, [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Once in a lifetime, you find your true love and it’s great. Life makes a little more sense, they inspire you, and you realize you can grow to love someone unconditionally. But what happens when the timing isn’t right? Where does that leave you? I met my true love and the one I [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Love is grand, but sometimes it can get in the way of things if you allow it. Honeymoon phase is great, but we all have to get down to business to focus on our work and personal lives. Even the single parent out there dating has to make [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: On our journey to find love, we often run into many people who will stir many emotions in us but aren’t the real deal. The sooner you let these people go, people we call ‘cubic zirconia’, you can continue on the real journey to find your gem. And [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Marriage is forever, but what happens when being in love with the ‘one’ happens too. Only, the ‘one’ is not your husband. That’s today’s reader’s dilemma. Can someone really lived happily married when the heart is with another? I am in love with someone other than my new [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Sometimes we have to let go of the wrong ones forever, to make room for the friends and maybe ‘the one’. We only have so much time and effort we can give to others. Knowing when to say goodbye can give you the rich life you deserve, just [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: People always talk about what personality traits they like in a person. But sometimes people can forget to look for the core traits like honesty, showing respect, and being trustworthy. Read on as our 36 yr old female reader talks about her current dilemma and what had to [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Here at STD, we are all about women being independent, but we believe society has taken it too far. Men will still remain men, women as well, will remain women. Meaning, we retain our basic characteristics from our gender. But, when a woman starts giving off the vibe [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Sometimes some of us get lucky and we do find that one we want to spend forever with. And they say there’s love at first sight. I’ve never believed in love at first sight. But after this reader’s story, I believe maybe it does happen for others. I [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: We all get lost along the way when we’re finding our way on the path of love. Sometimes we settle for less when we forget the ultimate goal if it is married love. When we can see past our negative habits and unhealthy coping skills, we can start [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Some people have dilemmas with everyday problems, but sometimes you do have the ridiculous, yet true. Take this reader who, all summer, has been dating 3 guys she loves. It sure must be nice, but like you’ll see below, one can only go so long. Sooner or later, [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Storms in life have a way of drawing people together or bringing them apart. Hurricane Isaac now out in the gulf is doing no less. Our reader has 2 men, but which one makes a difference during the hurricane? I am sitting here with my best friend’s family, [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Everyone is different and some of us live the status quo. But, people like this reader and the guy she’s talking to, don’t fit that. Do people like that have hope of ever fulfulling the status quo of a relationship or marriage? Is there a such thing as [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: At what point are we pushing the boundaries when it comes to a boyfriend or girlfriend and their relationship with their exes. The title is misleading as you’ll see the girlfriend doesn’t have a sex with exes, but it is a fair question as to who gets eliminated [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Sometimes things aren’t always as they seem. Sometimes there are guys that are not typical guys that don’t have ‘typical’ behavior. See how this military guy handles his current love interest. I’m in utter confusion and this is not typical for me. I am OCD. Everything has [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Funny that people think that only guys can’t be monogamous. But there are girls who have a difficult time transitioning to being monogamous. Read on how our next reader, a self-proclaimed ‘good girl’, misses that 1st special one. I have to admit I am boy crazy. I am [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Sometimes people ask what it takes to be girlfriend. I say that when a girlfriend can overlook her needs and think of her boyfriend’s first, she is on the right track. Read on as our reader tells what she does. My boyfriend and I live an hour apart. [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Moving in is very common nowadays, but who can you trust. And who is the right person to live with!! QUESTION: A guy wants me to move in with him in another state. He told me I can just work and save money. He told me to pay [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: I can say I’ve been there, done that, and not going back when it comes to cohabiting. I’m still single so, obviously mine didn’t work out. There are plenty of people who make it work. It takes a lot of work and communication is key, as is everything [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: There are people who want to be married just to be married. Then there are those who won’t settle. How do you know which one you are? Read on as a reader shares why she chooses not to settle and how sex plays into it. What goes on [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Cheating can be one of the worst things you can do to someone who loves you. But what happens when you find out by finding sex videos? What damage does it do? How do you recover or do you really ever recover? You know I finally told my [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Here a reader shares thoughts on being a single parent who left a long term relationship involving cheating. What does a single mom tell herself to get back into the dating game? Single fellas, listen up to hear how to win over and be in the world of [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: We are all about having a good time. Going out in the night life and having drinks with friends can be a good time but there are times when it gets out of hand. It’s important to know how to address a problem when a night of drinking [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: We here at STD are always full of wishful thinking. We’re always hoping that people do find that one special person, but we know life doesn’t always work like that. No matter how good of a person you are, broken promises happen, lofty claims never become real, people [...]
Continue reading...QUESTION: Well someone got upset with me for pulling the pictures. They weren’t on his page so I assumed he didn’t want it up. I was thinking of putting them back up myself…hell I don’t know… Like boyfriend?? I thought we did….we didnt? ARIANA: Why don’t u guys define urself [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Yeah, we know the title is crazy. But we knew it’d get your attention. Today’s blog post isn’t really about polygamy. Well…not really, but who has a word for a girl with 2 guys she’s dating. I suppose pimp or player would do. But is that really right? [...]
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QUESTION: I’m currently separated from my husband, soon to be divorced. And the last year I’ve dated and talked to several different guys. There was usually a physically attraction, but nothing strong enough to keep me interested more than a couple months (if it even got to that point). A [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Relationships and dating are never easy. For me, patience is one quality that is difficult. It is definitely a lot of work, but not in a drama, difficult way. It’s difficult in terms of understanding another person. We all have different values, backgrounds, and priorities. It’s a challenge, [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Today’s questions are a little different, but of course they fall into the category of dating. For some the ultimate goal is marriage and kids, others just kids, and the rest are somewhere in between! And sometimes it changes, especially when you are single but don’t want to [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE: We can’t help but laugh at the few questions we got. One, most especially, is the ‘farting’ question. Yes, we had some giggles, like immature middle school kids. Hey, you gotta laugh at people’s funny habits, but you love them anyways. And that’s what it’s about. QUESTION: My [...]
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QUESTION: I’m a pretty safe person for the most part. I don’t drive in bad neighborhoods, I drive safely, I don’t swim too far out in the ocean, and I’m very safe when it comes to dating and sex. Eventually, we all meet someone though who we trust, and when [...]
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QUESTION: I’ve been dating a girl for 3 months now and I just found out that she’s not who she says is. When I first met her, she would only give me her Facebook account. I thought it was odd that she wouldn’t give me her number, but I just [...]
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The following is a letter one of our readers wrote to her ex-boyfriend when she realized the pain he caused her was keeping her from moving forward with the guy she was dating. Dear xxxx, This letter is long overdue, but had to be said. As I’m dating someone new, [...]
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http://youtu.be/-Y7eaOH7-CY QUESTION: I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 months now. I really want to tell her I love her. But this past week, she totally flipped on me. At the beginning of the week, she’s telling me how she feels so close to me and always wants to [...]
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EDITOR’S NOTE It’s the series we all love to read and the series we probably wish it wasn’t us up there. But, sooner or later, you know you can relate. We all do. So, sit back, enjoy today’s top 5 and don’t be afraid to share yours too!
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I met someone a few months ago through a mutual friend and he seemed like a nice person. He was very laid back and cool. One thing led to another and eventually we slept together. That same night, he told me that I was a nice person, but he basically [...]
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QUESTION: So I have been dating this guy for a few weeks now and was wondering when we should start sharing in our entertainment expenses? He always wants to go out and do things but unfortunately I am not as financially stable as he is. I feel bad when he [...]
Continue reading...QUESTION: I’m in love with a stripper! Help! What should I do? SLICK RICK: Ok, usually I try my best to give long, drawn-out answers to everyone’s issues in order to help those individuals with problematic situations get a good understanding about their options. With this, I found myself just shaking [...]
Continue reading...EDITOR’S NOTE: Many couples like to enjoy themselves every now and then with physical intimacy. It is the highest expression of your desire for another person. But what happens when the unplanned happens and you have to face the consequences after? Read on. QUESTION: I’ve been dating this guy for [...]
Continue reading...QUESTION: The guy I’m dating wants to know what my ‘number’ is. It’s a lot higher than his. Should I tell him or not? He told me he’s going to assume my ‘number’ is worse since I’m not telling him. SLICK RICK: When it comes to the ‘number’ game, it [...]
Continue reading...QUESTION I am really into this guy I’ve been dating and we’ve been holding out so we can just take it slow. Now we’re talking about making the plunge. I’ve never waited this long for a guy I’ve been dating, will it totally change everything or screw it up. ARIANA [...]
Continue reading...QUESTION: I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 3 months ago because he just wasn’t treating me well. He no longer complimented me, disrespected me all the time, and was always hiding his phone from me. We had been dating for about 5 years. The past couple weeks we’ve been [...]
Continue reading...QUESTION: I have been dating a girl for 3 months now that I really care about. She met my parents on Easter weekend, but I haven’t met her parents. Her mom went into ER this morning and I’m not sure what to do. I want to help or visit, just [...]
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Online dating, text messaging buddy, hair pulling, obeying, and Scooby Doo! You know it’s crazy. We all know it’s crazy, but it’s just too fun. What fun do we have today? Text #1 Losers Ever had that opposite sex friend who you share your dating lives with, even the lack [...]
Continue reading...QUESTION: I am an American who is living overseas for a new experience. A guy friend came over last night and basically raped me. I know it sounds horrible and I feel horrible. I was in the police station all night here. He pushed me down on my stomach and [...]
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Here they go! Top 5 dating texts of the week
Continue reading...Q: Does that make a girl look too easy if she doesn’t wait til being official and is messing around before that? A: Doesn’t need to be any titles to mess around. Some girls are freaks. But if a girl would mess around on the first date. It’s a red [...]
Continue reading...Q: She sent me a text saying “I feel like we’ve been together a long time. Well I guess we have. 6 months in total.” what does this mean? A: It means she trusts u to be herself. That she can be herself around you. That you guys are just [...]
Continue reading...QUESTION: First off, I am an individual who has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I was misdiagnosed for a long time and had a toxic relationship I was part of the entire time until I got diagnosed correctly. Then I was able to get on the right meds and I [...]
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Facebook Defriend
EDITOR’S NOTE: We all know Facebook, it’s become a household name. Heck, it may already be in the dictionary as a verb–did you ‘facebook’ your friend? My child even asks after every picture, ‘are you gonna post that on facebook?’ We live our lives on it, but when is it [...]
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