Category Archives: Dating

Space


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QUESTION: I recently broke it off with a guy I’ve been dating for 2 yrs. We had lived together for about 6 months and were fighting so bad. We were also engaged for 2 months and I called that off. The guy didn’t even get me the kind of ring [...]

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Dating Rules Violated


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EDITOR’S NOTE: We are all different and when it comes to relationship, it is just as true. There are no hard and fast dating rules. This is very true for our next reader, whose relationship is very different. But she (and we all have to) had to learn to listen [...]

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Magic Mike


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Magic Mike was the craze a few months ago.  I didn’t see what all the hype was.  We saw it on a girls night out too.  And by the end, all my girlfriends and I wanted the male strippers to just put their clothes back on.  This reader [...]

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Jealousy Consumes


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Jealousy as I’ve seen it, is always destructive.  I’ve seen countless fights, arguments, and ridiculous behavior because of the green eyed monster.  It can be explosive and cause a lot of anger.  It’s not called the green eyed monster for nothing.  I always liked how one of my friends put it once, [...]

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Double Date Fail


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Double date is a little bit of a misnomer in this dating situation.  This is more like a dating scenario where your friend likes a girl and you like her cousin, but her cousin doesn’t like you and you want to go after your friend’s girl interest.  Confusing?  Yeah, we know.  [...]

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Dissed and Replaced by His Pet Fish


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  All’s fair in love and war.  To a reliable and dependable person, excuses are just inexcusable.  It does get tiring in dating.  I mean, really, can’t someone simply say ‘I’m not interested’, instead of you’re ignored or just plain dissed.  Dissed sucks.  If you got back with your [...]

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Facebook Defriend


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EDITOR’S NOTE: We all know Facebook, it’s become a household name. Heck, it may already be in the dictionary as a verb–did you ‘facebook’ your friend? My child even asks after every picture, ‘are you gonna post that on facebook?’ We live our lives on it, but when is it [...]

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‘Whore’ by Choice aka Sexually Powerful Woman


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Society has given convenient labels for everything under the sun.  When it comes to sexuality, especially women, labels fly hard and fast.  We all know the double standard in which sexually active women are labeled negatively as a whore or slut.  Sadly, men who have the same highly [...]

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Purity


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Sometimes the past can burn us so bad we fail to want to take a chance and sacrifice independence to be with someone new.  But, if we’re blessed enough, we’re lucky enough to meet someone who may be worth it.  If we don’t take that chance, we may lose out [...]

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Fathers Wanted for Single Mothers


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EDITOR’S NOTE: Life is never perfect and roles like single mothers or father exist. It’s not perfect, but we learn to live those roles out well. Well meaning loved ones can pressure, asking why don’t you get married or that you should find a father for your child. People can [...]

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Cheaters


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  We all make mistakes in life.  When we look back on our lives, we can ask ourselves why we did what we did or even who that person was.  We are of the mindset to never point fingers, who are we to judge, especially when the topic of [...]

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Gay, Straight, Bisexual but Only One


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Our next reader is spot on with our views here at STD on sexuality.  Gay, straight or bisexual, you’re human and we accept you.  To each their own and the lifestyle they choose.  Your sexuality doesn’t determine how you should be treated.  If I’m going to be rude, I’ll be [...]

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Unhealthy Relationships


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  We are definitely big supporters of family.  Family is the place where we all can call home and be ourselves.  But what we are NOT supporters of are unhealthy relationships with unhealthy coping skills.  Everyone should have a healthy environment where trust and respect are present and seen more [...]

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Cougar for Life Bound


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EDITOR’S NOTE: We all grow up with the Disney fairy tale stories, everybody thinks love and marriage is a possibility. Some of us realize that will most likely never happen to us. And then when you’re a woman, you have that biological clock that ticks away. And read on, as [...]

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Daddy Daycare Fail


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Tis love is grand, but tis love is complicated when the baby daddy is gone.  And your boyfriend turns out as a fail as a daddy daycare.  Then what do you do?  He’s perfect for you, but flawed for your child.  Is romance over or is there hope?  [...]

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Phone Number Etiquette


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EDITOR’S NOTE: Dating isn’t easy, nor is it pretty at times. It tests your wits and will. It makes you stronger or brings you down. You decide what to do with the ups and downs. You can choose to learn from your dating experiences or become bitter. It’s all up [...]

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Double Standard



EDITOR’S NOTE: There are no perfect people in dating. And anyone who tries to convince you they are perfect is flawed in their thinking. And we’re of the belief that you can never judge someone, especially when it comes to their past. And don’t act innocent when you do have [...]

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Game Over



EDITOR’S NOTE:  It’s true you should never let the past affect your future.  But somewhere along the lines, we pick up bad behavior and even start playing those games we learn from others.  True love has no place for games and flakers.  So if you’re going to take a chance [...]

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Rock Stars



EDITOR’S NOTE: In our ordinary lives, sometimes we meet extraordinary couples. A pair of rock stars who are all around the type of people who are movers and shakers. They go above the status quo and build not just a wonderful relationship, but a strong community behind them. Relationships like [...]

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Rebound Marine



EDITOR’S NOTE: Sooner or later, all our relationships come to an end. There comes the inevitable rebound for some, alone time, or eventually, new, better relationships. It can happen fast, it may be a while, but if the opportunity comes up, you gotta make it count. And for this reader, [...]

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Innocence


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Once in a lifetime, you find your true love and it’s great.  Life makes a little more sense, they inspire you, and you realize you can grow to love someone unconditionally.  But what happens when the timing isn’t right?  Where does that leave you? I met my true love and the one I [...]

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Business of Love


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EDITOR’S NOTE: Love is grand, but sometimes it can get in the way of things if you allow it. Honeymoon phase is great, but we all have to get down to business to focus on our work and personal lives. Even the single parent out there dating has to make [...]

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Carnival ride



EDITOR’S NOTE: On our journey to find love, we often run into many people who will stir many emotions in us but aren’t the real deal. The sooner you let these people go, people we call ‘cubic zirconia’, you can continue on the real journey to find your gem. And [...]

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Unhappily Married


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EDITOR’S NOTE: Marriage is forever, but what happens when being in love with the ‘one’ happens too. Only, the ‘one’ is not your husband. That’s today’s reader’s dilemma. Can someone really lived happily married when the heart is with another? I am in love with someone other than my new [...]

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Goodbye



EDITOR’S NOTE: Sometimes we have to let go of the wrong ones forever, to make room for the friends and maybe ‘the one’. We only have so much time and effort we can give to others. Knowing when to say goodbye can give you the rich life you deserve, just [...]

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Traits to Look For


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EDITOR’S NOTE: People always talk about what personality traits they like in a person. But sometimes people can forget to look for the core traits like honesty, showing respect, and being trustworthy. Read on as our 36 yr old female reader talks about her current dilemma and what had to [...]

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Patience in Courting



EDITOR’S NOTE: Here at STD, we are all about women being independent, but we believe society has taken it too far. Men will still remain men, women as well, will remain women. Meaning, we retain our basic characteristics from our gender. But, when a woman starts giving off the vibe [...]

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Respected, Loved, and Cared For



EDITOR’S NOTE: We all get lost along the way when we’re finding our way on the path of love. Sometimes we settle for less when we forget the ultimate goal if it is married love. When we can see past our negative habits and unhealthy coping skills, we can start [...]

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Noncommittal Girl



EDITOR’S NOTE: Some people have dilemmas with everyday problems, but sometimes you do have the ridiculous, yet true. Take this reader who, all summer, has been dating 3 guys she loves. It sure must be nice, but like you’ll see below, one can only go so long. Sooner or later, [...]

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Hurricane Isaac


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EDITOR’S NOTE: Storms in life have a way of drawing people together or bringing them apart. Hurricane Isaac now out in the gulf is doing no less. Our reader has 2 men, but which one makes a difference during the hurricane? I am sitting here with my best friend’s family, [...]

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Commitment Phobia



EDITOR’S NOTE: Everyone is different and some of us live the status quo. But, people like this reader and the guy she’s talking to, don’t fit that. Do people like that have hope of ever fulfulling the status quo of a relationship or marriage? Is there a such thing as [...]

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Sex with the Exes



EDITOR’S NOTE: At what point are we pushing the boundaries when it comes to a boyfriend or girlfriend and their relationship with their exes. The title is misleading as you’ll see the girlfriend doesn’t have a sex with exes, but it is a fair question as to who gets eliminated [...]

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Military Wife Prep


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EDITOR’S NOTE:  Sometimes things aren’t always as they seem.  Sometimes there are guys that are not typical guys that don’t have ‘typical’ behavior.  See how this military guy handles his current love interest.   I’m in utter confusion and this is not typical for me.  I am OCD.  Everything has [...]

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Miss You Much


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EDITOR’S NOTE: Funny that people think that only guys can’t be monogamous. But there are girls who have a difficult time transitioning to being monogamous. Read on how our next reader, a self-proclaimed ‘good girl’, misses that 1st special one. I have to admit I am boy crazy. I am [...]

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Massage to Relax



EDITOR’S NOTE: Sometimes people ask what it takes to be girlfriend. I say that when a girlfriend can overlook her needs and think of her boyfriend’s first, she is on the right track. Read on as our reader tells what she does. My boyfriend and I live an hour apart. [...]

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Moving In



EDITOR’S NOTE: Moving in is very common nowadays, but who can you trust. And who is the right person to live with!! QUESTION: A guy wants me to move in with him in another state. He told me I can just work and save money. He told me to pay [...]

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Cohabitation Rules



EDITOR’S NOTE: I can say I’ve been there, done that, and not going back when it comes to cohabiting. I’m still single so, obviously mine didn’t work out. There are plenty of people who make it work. It takes a lot of work and communication is key, as is everything [...]

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Single for Life



EDITOR’S NOTE: There are people who want to be married just to be married. Then there are those who won’t settle. How do you know which one you are? Read on as a reader shares why she chooses not to settle and how sex plays into it. What goes on [...]

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Single Mom



EDITOR’S NOTE: Here a reader shares thoughts on being a single parent who left a long term relationship involving cheating. What does a single mom tell herself to get back into the dating game? Single fellas, listen up to hear how to win over and be in the world of [...]

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Family Tradition



EDITOR’S NOTE: We are all about having a good time. Going out in the night life and having drinks with friends can be a good time but there are times when it gets out of hand. It’s important to know how to address a problem when a night of drinking [...]

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Relationships that Vanish



EDITOR’S NOTE: We here at STD are always full of wishful thinking. We’re always hoping that people do find that one special person, but we know life doesn’t always work like that. No matter how good of a person you are, broken promises happen, lofty claims never become real, people [...]

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FBO? Facebook Official.



QUESTION: Well someone got upset with me for pulling the pictures. They weren’t on his page so I assumed he didn’t want it up. I was thinking of putting them back up myself…hell I don’t know… Like boyfriend?? I thought we did….we didnt? ARIANA: Why don’t u guys define urself [...]

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Random Q & A (Part XVI)


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EDITOR’S NOTE: Wild, wild women, you see them everywhere. Everyone thinks ‘trouble’ when they come in a set of a few. But more often than not, these wild ones want love just as much as the reserved ones. And if they’re smart, they will change their ways. Because eventually most [...]

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Polygamy



EDITOR’S NOTE: Yeah, we know the title is crazy. But we knew it’d get your attention. Today’s blog post isn’t really about polygamy. Well…not really, but who has a word for a girl with 2 guys she’s dating. I suppose pimp or player would do. But is that really right? [...]

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Long Distance Dating



QUESTION: I’m currently separated from my husband, soon to be divorced. And the last year I’ve dated and talked to several different guys. There was usually a physically attraction, but nothing strong enough to keep me interested more than a couple months (if it even got to that point). A [...]

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Safe Sex in Relationships



QUESTION: I’m a pretty safe person for the most part. I don’t drive in bad neighborhoods, I drive safely, I don’t swim too far out in the ocean, and I’m very safe when it comes to dating and sex. Eventually, we all meet someone though who we trust, and when [...]

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Alter Ego


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QUESTION: I’ve been dating a girl for 3 months now and I just found out that she’s not who she says is. When I first met her, she would only give me her Facebook account. I thought it was odd that she wouldn’t give me her number, but I just [...]

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Unbelievably Wacky Week Happenings, Part IX


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EDITOR’S NOTE: You know I read these wacky stories and I breathe a sigh of relief. No longer is that me. I can go to sleep at night without a dose of my own drama and it feels great. I don’t do drama very well but I can laugh at [...]

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Top 5 Dating Texts of the Week (Part IV)


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Stages of Relationships


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QUESTION: I’ve been dating the guy I really believe is the one. Everyday with him is like a new day and we can talk for hours. Whenever we have issues, we talk and work things out. We connect on every level – mind, body, and soul. Initially we ran into [...]

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Pimping Lines and Awkward Happenings (Part XIII)


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EDITOR’S NOTE: You know we always laugh at this section cause it’s always ridiculous. In fact, we don’t really believe in the magic and fairy tale of using pimping lines. Nevertheless, we’ll tell you some real ones in the hopes of passing on the awareness that pimping lines don’t work. [...]

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Relationship Communication Fail


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http://youtu.be/-Y7eaOH7-CY   QUESTION: I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 months now.  I really want to tell her I love her.  But this past week, she totally flipped on me.  At the beginning of the week, she’s telling me how she feels so close to me and always wants to [...]

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Random Q & A (Part XII)


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QUESTION #1:  I’ve been dating this great guy, he’s treated me the best of any guy before.  I honestly was downright treated like shit, now that I see how well he treats me.  When I don’t hear from him much because of work or he’s just busy, my insecurity kicks [...]

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Top 5 Dating Texts of the Week (Part XIII)


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EDITOR’S NOTE It’s the series we all love to read and the series we probably wish it wasn’t us up there. But, sooner or later, you know you can relate. We all do. So, sit back, enjoy today’s top 5 and don’t be afraid to share yours too!

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Sex Miscommunication


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I met someone a few months ago through a mutual friend and he seemed like a nice person.  He was very laid back and cool. One thing led to another and eventually we slept together.  That same night, he told me that I was a nice person, but he basically [...]

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Money Issues in Dating


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QUESTION: So I have been dating this guy for a few weeks now and was wondering when we should start sharing in our entertainment expenses? He always wants to go out and do things but unfortunately I am not as financially stable as he is. I feel bad when he [...]

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Pimping Deadlines



QUESTION: I am so fed up with dating.  I broke up with an abusive boyfriend of 5 years last year.  And I have been on a rampage.  I haven’t really been looking for anything in particular, but all I have is bad luck.  All I seem to find is guys [...]

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Random Q & A (Part XI)



QUESTION:  I’m in love with a stripper!  Help!  What should I do? SLICK RICK: Ok, usually I try my best to give long, drawn-out answers to everyone’s issues in order to help those individuals with problematic situations get a good understanding about their options.  With this, I found myself just shaking [...]

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Men in Relationships: Points to Consider



Women, more time than not, want a real relationship, which takes a real man. But how do you find that guy? Read on as Aubrey gives us tips. What to Consider in Men and Relationships: Over the past 5 years, I have been on numerous dates, had several boyfriends, and [...]

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Baby Daddy or Husband



EDITOR’S NOTE: Many couples like to enjoy themselves every now and then with physical intimacy.  It is the highest expression of your desire for another person.  But what happens when the unplanned happens and you have to face the consequences after?  Read on. QUESTION: I’ve been dating this guy for [...]

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Top 5 Dating Texts of the Week (Part XII)



It’s that time again…for the top 5 dating texts of the week.  We try not to disappoint, and when some crazy things are going on, it makes it easier for us to meet that goal.  It’s always raw, crazy, and definitely of the unexpected.  So, here it goes: Text #1  [...]

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Random Q & A (Part X)



QUESTION: The guy I’m dating wants to know what my ‘number’ is. It’s a lot higher than his. Should I tell him or not? He told me he’s going to assume my ‘number’ is worse since I’m not telling him. SLICK RICK: When it comes to the ‘number’ game, it [...]

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Random Q & A (Part IX)



QUESTION I am really into this guy I’ve been dating and we’ve been holding out so we can just take it slow. Now we’re talking about making the plunge. I’ve never waited this long for a guy I’ve been dating, will it totally change everything or screw it up. ARIANA [...]

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Yelling and Yanking



QUESTION: I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 3 months ago because he just wasn’t treating me well.  He no longer complimented me, disrespected me all the time, and was always hiding his phone from me.  We had been dating for about 5 years.  The past couple weeks we’ve been [...]

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Booty Call



  QUESTION:    I’ve been friends with this guy ever since he picked up on me where I work as a bartender.  We’ve been friends for about 8 months or so.  I couldn’t ever figure out what he wanted from me.  I thought he was interested when he first asked for [...]

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Random Q & A (Part VIII)



QUESTION:  I have been dating a girl for 3 months now that I really care about.  She met my parents on Easter weekend, but I haven’t met her parents.  Her mom went into ER this morning and I’m not sure what to do.  I want to help or visit, just [...]

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Top 5 Dating Texts of the Week (Part XI)



Online dating, text messaging buddy, hair pulling, obeying, and Scooby Doo! You know it’s crazy. We all know it’s crazy, but it’s just too fun. What fun do we have today? Text #1 Losers Ever had that opposite sex friend who you share your dating lives with, even the lack [...]

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Lightning Fast



QUESTION: I’ve been talking to this great guy for the last few months. The other day we got into a disagreement and being the persistence person I am, I kept probing him as to what he was thinking. Some other things were said and he told me he couldn’t provide [...]

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Top 5 Dating Texts of the Week (Part X)



Here they go! Top 5 dating texts of the week

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Random Q & A (Part VII)



Q: Does that make a girl look too easy if she doesn’t wait til being official and is messing around before that? A: Doesn’t need to be any titles to mess around. Some girls are freaks. But if a girl would mess around on the first date. It’s a red [...]

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Random Q & A (Part VI)



Q: She sent me a text saying “I feel like we’ve been together a long time. Well I guess we have. 6 months in total.” what does this mean? A: It means she trusts u to be herself. That she can be herself around you. That you guys are just [...]

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Bipolar Love



QUESTION: First off, I am an individual who has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I was misdiagnosed for a long time and had a toxic relationship I was part of the entire time until I got diagnosed correctly. Then I was able to get on the right meds and I [...]

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Abandoned



QUESTION: I’ve been dating this amazing guy for a month. We had a really strong bond and we could spend hours upon hours just talking about our lives. We were fine, although he would talk about his fears of what would happen in the future when he had to move [...]

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Random Q & A (Part V)



QUESTION: Do you believe it’s possible for people can fall in love within the first few weeks? ARIANA: Yes, I mean anything is possible. Do I think that’s a sufficient amount of time to build a lasting meaningful relationship? No. Often the quickly ignited fiery relationships, passionate, etc…the flames die [...]

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Top 5 Dating Texts of the Week (Part IX)



We just can’t get enough of your dating texts. And we think our own are funny, but some of you got us beat. There’s some beauty in the bluntness and realness of a crazy dating text. But, the best thing is that 1) we have close friend to share our [...]

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Exclusive



QUESTION: I recently started talking to this awesome guy. He’s a strong, confident, giving man. He always makes me a priority and always gets back to me whenever I text or call. Recently, we had a discussion about talking to other people and he told me to go ahead flirting [...]

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Random Q & A (Part IV)



QUESTION: What do you think about a couple waiting til marriage for sex? If a guy is willing to do that, that’s pretty serious, right? ANSWER: It is definitely not the norm. But, for a girl, it shows the guy is really serious about her, I think. And that he’s [...]

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Love at First Sight



QUESTION: I recently started dating a really great guy. Things are literally PERFECT! We have great chemistry. We can talk for hours on end. We are really close but have only been dating a few weeks. We feel like we’ve known each other and when we’re together we’re always gazing [...]

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Top 5 Dating Texts of the Week (Part VIII)



People are funny. And we can never stop laughing at the funny texts we receive. We love them, don’t stop, they really are funny! We want to keep it going! We did include a lovey dovey one this time because it is very sweet. Hey, we’re in the dating world, [...]

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